I usually don’t wear my heart on my sleeve. But days like today is an exception.
I wrote a fawning post about my husband few days before we got married. Back then, I knew I was about to marry the best man that I had ever come across. Twelve years down the road, I feel much more strongly than I did back then.
Because then, I only had a sense of what’s about to come in our marriage. It’s only when you live under the same roof together, and go through life’s banality, it’s crests and troughs, and discover the different layers of a person that you truly begin to understand and appreciate them.
Yes, Ryan’s a good-looking guy but that wasn’t why I chose him to be my husband. More than his subtle intelligence or looks, it’s his sweet and tender way of loving – dutiful and conscientious. And his way of living – fun and adventurous. But what I love the most about Ryan is his unassuming nature. His love is a reflection of his nature. An unassuming love.
Friendship, they say, is the foundation of a good marriage. And I couldn’t agree more.
Is my husband my best friend? Yes!
Do we discuss everything under the sun together? No!
I have friends with whom I indulge in small talk and gossip. I have friends to hang out with and have a good time too. But, no one compares to my husband. Because only best friends tell you things like it is. They don’t need to pretend or sugar-coat the reality for you. They have each other’s best interests at heart.
We live in a world that’s obsessed with success. And when you’re successful, you have friends and admirers all around you. Everyone wants to be your friend and be associated with you.
It’s when you have nothing, that you know who’s your true friend. I know that I can fall back on Ryan anytime, especially in those weak and vulnerable moments when I need him the most. He’s there. A friend in need is a friend indeed!
No we don’t have a perfect rosy relationship. Far from it! But, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I like us the way we are today. How far we have come together as a couple since we met. How much more we are to become in the times to come!
It’s taken me a while to get to this point. But today, I love his flaws as much as his strengths. I love him more and more as time goes by. That was the song for our first dance “Casablanca” by Bertie Higgins.
Today he turns 40 and I cannot help being sentimental about it. It’s a special occasion for the family as Ryan, my husband turns 4 decades old and Nadine, my daughter a decade old this year. Exactly 3 decades apart. Together, they make up my world and light it up with their presence.
Isn’t it a miracle when you think of it? Life, Love, Family, Friendships. Our world can be as extensive as the Universe itself and as intensive as our family.
In celebration of four decades of Ryan and to many more. Keep sparkling, my love!
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Absolutely lovely post. Wishing him many happy returns of the day and both of you many decades more of love.
Thank you so much, Dr.Roshan! Very sweet and thoughtful of you to send your warm wishes. WIshing you the same – truckloads of love and happiness your way. 🙂
Straight from heart post. Wish you both many many more years of happiness and togetherness.
This post is love. An honest account of your relationship. Stay blessed always.
Thank you so much, Vartika! So glad you liked it and found it real. You too, my love!
This is such an adorable post! Wishing your husband and your daughter a very happy birthday! 🙂
And loads of blessing for you and your family 🙂
Thank you so much for your warm wishes, Sushmita! Glad you enjoyed the post. Keep reading 🙂
What a lovely post expressing feelings. Understanding husband is a blessing. Birthday wishes, Stay blessed.
Happy birthday to your doting husband and cheers to many more years of togetherness.
I loved the way you had expressed your equation with your husband. happy birthday to him and lovely family click..stay blessed always. #Surbhireads #Myfriendalexa
Had a great time reading your emotions, friendship & love..could relate at do many levels as i married the love of y life who’s been my bestie way before.God bless
No relation is perfect. Its about all the memories-sweet and bitter we enjoy together and how we sail through the tough times and enjoy even the smallest of the happiness. That is love and I am sure you are balancing it perfectly. God bless you!!
Well-said, Alpana. Perfect relationships are a myth. And there is beauty in imperfections and in patience. Long-term relationships like marriage call for a lot of patience, wisdom and of course, love. Well, I’m trying and I’d like to believe that we are in a better place today than when we started out on our marriage. 🙂 Thank you so much, Alpana for your wishes.
That’s a straight from the heart post. Loved reading it and sending him birthday wishes 🙂
wqwoww loved reading it!! amazing!
A beautiful love story. I enjoyed reading your heartfelt account. May God bless you both with years of love and togetherness!
Belated happy birthday to your Husband. That’s a beautiful gift for him, such an honest account of your relationship. God bless you both with many more years of love and togetherness
Birthday wishes to Ryan for a great year!
You put your heart out there and I truly loved it! It’s so important to be vocal about our love at times. Wish you great love all life through!
A nice post. What can be better than marrying a person who can also be a best friend? Life’s journey will be so much better and easier when it can be shared with someone who understands.
What a sweet paean to your love! Congratulations to your husband in completing 40.
I too believe one’s partner should be their best friend for a successful relationship.
The ideal relationship between spouses is friendship.
Delightful post, got me to smile throughout. God bless you and your family
The best thing in life is to marry your best friend.. Amazing.. Best wishes for ur life ahead..:)
Yes indeed marrying your best friend is a blessing in disguise. My husband and I were friends for a long time before he proposed to me. But yes our relationship is not very rosy also like you mentioned and we understand each other at every point of life. Loved your post. #MyFriendAlexa #ShubhraReads
Aww, that is a beautifully expressed post dear 🙂 Belated Happy Birthday to your man.
Such a sweet post.. all the best to all of you!!
Belated birthday wishes to your hubby! May your bond remain strong forever. You’re a very lucky couple indeed. Not everybody is lucky to have found such an amazing partner for life. God bless you and your family. 😃
You are lucky to have your husband as your best friend 🙂
It’s so lovely to read your love story. It’s quite impressive.
What could be more amazing than marrying your best friend! Congratulations to you and Happy birthday to him.#MyFriendAlexa #CloudandSunshineReads
Lovely post, it’s so good to read your story. happy birthday to both of them
Beautifully expressed. Wishing you both happiness always.
This is a heartfelt story and an awesome way to wish your partner. According to me, lucky are those who get married to their best friend.
This is a fantastic post… I hope I get sufficiently motivated! Keep it up. Keep it up. Superb..
Thank you so much!