I married my best friend

The Young Ones

I usually don’t wear my heart on my sleeve. But days like today is an exception.

I wrote a fawning post about my husband few days before we got married. Back then, I knew I was about to marry the best man that I had ever come across. Twelve years down the road, I feel much more strongly than I did back then.

Because then, I only had a sense of what’s about to come in our marriage. It’s only when you live under the same roof together, and go through life’s banality, it’s crests and troughs, and discover the different layers of a person that you truly begin to understand and appreciate them.

Yes, Ryan’s a good-looking guy but that wasn’t why I chose him to be my husband. More than his subtle intelligence or looks, it’s his sweet and tender way of loving – dutiful and conscientious. And his way of living – fun and adventurous. But what I love the most about Ryan is his unassuming nature. His love is a reflection of his nature. An unassuming love.

It’s written in the stars!

Friendship, they say, is the foundation of a good marriage. And I couldn’t agree more.

Is my husband my best friend? Yes!

Do we discuss everything under the sun together? No!

I have friends with whom I indulge in small talk and gossip. I have friends to hang out with and have a good time too. But, no one compares to my husband. Because only best friends tell you things like it is. They don’t need to pretend or sugar-coat the reality for you. They have each other’s best interests at heart.

We live in a world that’s obsessed with success. And when you’re successful, you have friends and admirers all around you. Everyone wants to be your friend and be associated with you.

It’s when you have nothing, that you know who’s your true friend. I know that I can fall back on Ryan anytime, especially in those weak and vulnerable moments when I need him the most. He’s there. A friend in need is a friend indeed!

Stand by me!

No we don’t have a perfect rosy relationship. Far from it! But, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I like us the way we are today. How far we have come together as a couple since we met. How much more we are to become in the times to come!

It’s taken me a while to get to this point. But today, I love his flaws as much as his strengths. I love him more and more as time goes by. That was the song for our first dance “Casablanca” by Bertie Higgins.

Today he turns 40 and I cannot help being sentimental about it. It’s a special occasion for the family as Ryan, my husband turns 4 decades old and Nadine, my daughter a decade old this year. Exactly 3 decades apart. Together, they make up my world and light it up with their presence.

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Sweet child of ours!

Isn’t it a miracle when you think of it? Life, Love, Family, Friendships. Our world can be as extensive as the Universe itself and as intensive as our family.

In celebration of four decades of Ryan and to many more. Keep sparkling, my love!

Happy 40th, Babe!


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Tina Sequeira
Tina Sequeira is a marketer and moonlighting writer. She is passionate about tech, creativity, and social justice—dabbling in and writing about the same.

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  1. Absolutely lovely post. Wishing him many happy returns of the day and both of you many decades more of love.

  2. I loved the way you had expressed your equation with your husband. happy birthday to him and lovely family click..stay blessed always. #Surbhireads #Myfriendalexa

  3. Had a great time reading your emotions, friendship & love..could relate at do many levels as i married the love of y life who’s been my bestie way before.God bless

  4. No relation is perfect. Its about all the memories-sweet and bitter we enjoy together and how we sail through the tough times and enjoy even the smallest of the happiness. That is love and I am sure you are balancing it perfectly. God bless you!!

    • Well-said, Alpana. Perfect relationships are a myth. And there is beauty in imperfections and in patience. Long-term relationships like marriage call for a lot of patience, wisdom and of course, love. Well, I’m trying and I’d like to believe that we are in a better place today than when we started out on our marriage. 🙂 Thank you so much, Alpana for your wishes.

  5. Belated happy birthday to your Husband. That’s a beautiful gift for him, such an honest account of your relationship. God bless you both with many more years of love and togetherness

  6. Birthday wishes to Ryan for a great year!
    You put your heart out there and I truly loved it! It’s so important to be vocal about our love at times. Wish you great love all life through!

  7. A nice post. What can be better than marrying a person who can also be a best friend? Life’s journey will be so much better and easier when it can be shared with someone who understands.

  8. Yes indeed marrying your best friend is a blessing in disguise. My husband and I were friends for a long time before he proposed to me. But yes our relationship is not very rosy also like you mentioned and we understand each other at every point of life. Loved your post. #MyFriendAlexa #ShubhraReads

  9. Belated birthday wishes to your hubby! May your bond remain strong forever. You’re a very lucky couple indeed. Not everybody is lucky to have found such an amazing partner for life. God bless you and your family. 😃

  10. What could be more amazing than marrying your best friend! Congratulations to you and Happy birthday to him.#MyFriendAlexa #CloudandSunshineReads

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