I usually don’t wear my heart on my sleeve. But days like today is an exception.
I wrote a fawning post about my husband few days before we got married. Back then, I knew I was about to marry the best man that I had ever come across. Twelve years down the road, I feel much more strongly than I did back then.
Because then, I only had a sense of what’s about to come in our marriage. It’s only when you live under the same roof together, and go through life’s banality, it’s crests and troughs, and discover the different layers of a person that you truly begin to understand and appreciate them.
Yes, Ryan’s a good-looking guy but that wasn’t why I chose him to be my husband. More than his subtle intelligence or looks, it’s his sweet and tender way of loving – dutiful and conscientious. And his way of living – fun and adventurous. But what I love the most about Ryan is his unassuming nature. His love is a reflection of his nature. An unassuming love.
Friendship, they say, is the foundation of a good marriage. And I couldn’t agree more.
Is my husband my best friend? Yes!
Do we discuss everything under the sun together? No!
I have friends with whom I indulge in small talk and gossip. I have friends to hang out with and have a good time too. But, no one compares to my husband. Because only best friends tell you things like it is. They don’t need to pretend or sugar-coat the reality for you. They have each other’s best interests at heart.
We live in a world that’s obsessed with success. And when you’re successful, you have friends and admirers all around you. Everyone wants to be your friend and be associated with you.
It’s when you have nothing, that you know who’s your true friend. I know that I can fall back on Ryan anytime, especially in those weak and vulnerable moments when I need him the most. He’s there. A friend in need is a friend indeed!
No we don’t have a perfect rosy relationship. Far from it! But, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I like us the way we are today. How far we have come together as a couple since we met. How much more we are to become in the times to come!
It’s taken me a while to get to this point. But today, I love his flaws as much as his strengths. I love him more and more as time goes by. That was the song for our first dance “Casablanca” by Bertie Higgins.
Today he turns 40 and I cannot help being sentimental about it. It’s a special occasion for the family as Ryan, my husband turns 4 decades old and Nadine, my daughter a decade old this year. Exactly 3 decades apart. Together, they make up my world and light it up with their presence.
Isn’t it a miracle when you think of it? Life, Love, Family, Friendships. Our world can be as extensive as the Universe itself and as intensive as our family.
In celebration of four decades of Ryan and to many more. Keep sparkling, my love!