A letter to my daughter

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My Dearest Nadine,

This is my first letter to you. Ever.

It’s a public one as well.

Don’t freak out! Because no secrets revealed here! Promise!

You and Me – We share an exclusive relationship. It’s private, sacred, and existential for us.

I eagerly look forward to having fun with you at the end of the day. Over weekends.

Giving birth to you gave me a chance to relive my childhood years. Except for this time, I am in my Mum’s shoes, and you in mine.

My Mum and I share a very different bond. Unlike us. But it’s just as unique, sacred, and existential. I can’t do without her just as I can’t do without you.

But, you know what’s one of the most important things in life. Let’s explore together!

“…………………. are curious, flexible, persistent, and independent with a tremendous spirit of adventure and a love of play.”

Fill in the blanks, my baby!

I don’t know about you. But, the word that popped up in my head was ‘Children’ or ‘ Kids.’

Did that answer pop in your head as well?

But, the correct answer is ‘Creative people.’

Isn’t it a whimsical irony of how synonymous the two answers are!

You could perfectly swap ‘Creative people’ with ‘Children.’ And BOOM! It would still make perfect sense, not altering the meaning of the quote the slightest bit.

Now, let’s take a look at the original quote!

“Creative people are curious, flexible, persistent, and independent with a tremendous spirit of adventure and a love of play.”

This wisdom-laden quote was said by the French revolutionary artist, Henri Matisse. Matisse wasn’t afraid to be as pure and free-spirited as a child when it came to self-expression through the powerful medium of art. He used vivid colors and complex forms with gay abandon.

In his own words again, he sought to create an art that would be “a soothing, calming influence on the mind, rather like a good armchair.”

While his ultimate intent and objective was pleasure and contentment, his use of color and pattern was often deliberately disorientating and unsettling.

Isn’t that again what you children usually do!

When you have children of your own someday or have studied your peers, or children much younger, then you would be amazed at how similarly the minds of the world’s greatest artists of all time and children function.

Much like Matisse’s style of functioning, children deceptively appear to be scatterbrained and inept with their tiny fingers, making a ‘mess’ (according to our limited adult minds).

But, the truth is this – Amidst all this wild curiosity, chaos, unsettling frenzy is the ultimate objective to attain pleasure and contentment.
There is a method to the madness. All creative people. All children. You.

Isn’t that simply genius!

Yes, we are all geniuses.

If we let the child in us live forever….

If we hold onto our art passionately and never ever letting it go…

We owe a lot to you children and artists alike! For reminding us that being adults doesn’t necessarily have to mean the end of being curious, flexible, persistent, independent, adventurous and playful.

Being adults doesn’t have to mean the end of childhood.

Becoming an adult doesn’t mean the death of the child within us. Becoming an adult should be the rebirth of many children within us. One seedling that offshoots into many fruits and seedlings of curiosity, flexibility, persistence, independence, adventure and play.

We don’t have to be painters like Matisse per se. We could be too. The choice is yours entirely. Take your pick of art.

I keep my inner child alive with the art of writing, doodling, dancing, cooking, reading, and more.

Keep the child within you sparkling bright always with creativity, curiosity, and imagination. It’s the child within you that stirs up innovations and revolutions. Never underestimate the power of small.

Small is big.

So, my baby, take tiny steps towards freedom, happiness, and a life filled with color and meaning.

What color are you and I going to paint the town today?

Hmmmmm! I’m thinking in the shades of green, magenta, and ash!

What about you, my love?

Now, now! Aren’t we talking and thinking like children already? Better still, like world-famous artists! (Wink)

Lots of Love, Hugs, and Kisses,



  1. Wow loved it Tina..you had shared really great piece of advice for your daughter and as a parent, I also strongly believe in the same. loved the quote and yes! I agree that it is very important to keep our inner child alive even as a grown up. life is not a race, it is a journey and we all should try to live it upto fullest.


  2. Keeping the inner child alive is must. We tend to suppress that feeling saying that we have too much to think of. We have to let go fe of the burden atlas for one day. Our children give us many such opportunities but we tend to ignore it.


  3. This is so apt Tina. As adults we get caught up in some many worldly issues that we don’t remember the child within us. Being parents gives us that opportunity but we somehow miss to see it and again get caught up with parental responsibilities. I feel your letter to Nadine has a larger message for all adults. And I am sure it will also guide Nadine to step into adulthood with lot of clarity on ways to live life fully.


  4. Nice post Tina. We should keep the kid alive in ourselves. Never read the quote, but you defined it so beautifully, and a great piece of advice for your little one. Curiosity, imagination, creativity, these are the traits should be kept alive and adults should never leave their within child behind. Very well framed- Mittali


  5. “Keep the child within you sparkling bright always with creativity, curiosity, and imagination.”
    Great words.
    You have very beautifully addressed this issue of us as adults forgetting to enjoy with freedom.Loved the post..


  6. Phew!! looks like i just read one of the most thought-provoking posts… In the era where kids are mimicking their elders and dream to grow beyond their age, we want the kid in them to be alive for a lifetime. However tough it may sound, u make it look very simple. Your words convey innocence and the mischievous smile of a kid. I guess if we believe in ‘DIl toh bacha hai ji’…our kids will follow us. It is always a pleasure to read ur words Tina.


  7. Wow what a connect to the quote.
    I had read this quote many times but this connect was awesome.
    well said, dil ko baccha hi rehne do, enjoy with your kids and later too and never let the child inside you be inactive.


  8. As adults, we often read the world need creative minds and we wonder who are the creative ones.
    This quote and your take Tina is for all parents like us who wish to keep the inner child alive, in them and their loved ones. It was a pleasure to read your letter, Tina.

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  9. Wow.. such a beautiful letter to your daughter .Its a very inspiring piece Tina. We all are born creative but somewhere as we grow up, we get tied up by responsibilities and we foRget the child in us and our creativity and passion gets buried silently.

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  10. Letting the kids colour the world the way they want to, is the best thing that can be. Loved the quotes you used..and loved the way you want to colour the world along with Nadine. She surely is lucky to have you as a mother.

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  11. A lovely read!
    The letter surely shows that you have kept the kid in you alive and are reliving all great moments with your daughter. Hope she sends you a beautiful reply for this letter soon. 🙂

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  12. Tina , very warm and love filled post. The very thoughtful lessons you have jotted down are for sure a treasure for your child. My favorite one and something that I myself try to practice is – small is big and letting the child within us free. Your kid will be thankful for this treasure coming from a sitting mom like you 😍

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    1. Thank you so much, Prerna! It means a lot. You should know that I love your inventive and humourous posts. Nadine’s now 10. So I thought she’s a little more mature to process this letter. 🙂


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