Parenting has undergone a sea-change over the last few decades. While a good cane whack on the palms or knuckles did the trick for our ancestors at home or school, the same is not the case in today’s times.
When I was a new mother, I used to read a lot of parenting magazines and books where they highly recommended the “time-out” method. But somehow, I couldn’t agree with the idea or the rationale behind it. It was way better to receive a straight whack than being outcasted or isolated in my opinion. Time-out was a downright cruel idea.
I don’t believe in either the stick or the time-out method when it comes to disciplining my child. But, discipline is an essential trait for success in life.
Self-discipline is my ultimate parenting goal for my child. Because I know that once she regulates herself, everything else will fall into place beautifully.
Here’s sharing three simple ways that I discipline my child as it’s been working out fine so far:
- Routine: Inculcating discipline should begin early in childhood. As early as a newborn! I remember as a first-time mother to a newborn, life was chaos. There was no salvation until she turned three months old and when I started to enforce a strict routine. It made life both easier for her and me. A daily routine made life predictable, easier to handle and not to forget, more fun for even the newborn. It works like a miracle even during the terrible twos and threes phase. My daughter will turn ten in two months, and it’s routine which still holds her in good stead. Physically, emotionally and spiritually.
- Be the Role model: Children learn best from imitation. And, there is no greater role-model for a child than his/her parents. It’s one thing to preach routine and discipline and another thing to practice it. Practice what you preach to your child if you want self-discipline to be a natural way of life for them. Make it a family affair where everyone’s on the same page here.
- Break the rules: There’s no point in living like Miss: Goody Two Shoes all your life. Let the kids have fun once in a while. Break all the discipline rules. Saturdays are days when my child can sleep as late as she wants to. She does not go to bed beyond 11.30pm-12.00am.On school days, she goes to bed by 9.00pm and wakes up by 5.30am. All rules are broken during the holidays as well. That’s perfectly fine too. There is no hard and fast rule to anything in life. Like everything else, there should be some exceptions as well. We are happy rule-breakers sometimes. It’s okay to let your hair down sometimes and chill without a care in the world.
The more significant message that I’d like my child to learn and understand is “Duty first, Fun later.” It gives life more meaning and purpose. It adds sweetness to the victories and helps stay focused in times of trials and tribulations.
Of course, consistency is key when you discipline your child. Sometimes, we will detour but it’s more important to get back on track on going. Keep parenting with all your josh.
Self-discipline is the wings that you give your child to fly and soar high in life.